I think it is very easy to get bogged down with life in general. I don’t have a holiday booked until the end of the year, the honeymoon period is over in my new job. Sometimes I feel like a zombie with all the other zombies attracted to the City, dreaming of other things, going through the motions and basically getting stuck in a rut.
I’m recently trying to use different ways to train my mind to be healthier and more positive and I recently read a book that suggested solving 10 hard gratitude problems.
Here are my top 10:
- I am grateful for my long commute. This is probably the things that can get me down the most, especially at the moment when the days are long, the weather nice and I am stuck on a sweaty train for an hour. BUT, I thought about it and I am grateful for my commute. It gives me an hour to myself, no one else to please, no distractions. Whether I use that time to read a book, watch my favourite programme on Netflix (currently Orange is the new Black) or just listen to some music and let my mind wander. I am grateful for that time every day.
- I am grateful I get to clean my flat. After a week of work, the last thing I want to do is catch up on all the cleaning that doesn’t get done in the week. I hate cleaning. But I am grateful that I have my own flat to clean and I take pride in it enough to get it done.
- I am grateful for my job. I think this is an easy one that you can forget in all the moaning of everything (particularly if you work for someone else), that there are so many people without a job. My job is draining and it can be soulless at times – it certainly isn’t my passion. But I have a well-paid job where I can learn and am involved in one of the most exciting industries of London – tech! And I am grateful for that.
- I am grateful I don’t have a talent. I have always been a little bit upset that I have never had a stand out talent. I can’t sing. I can’t dance. I don’t play a sport. I work on things and for that I am grateful. I have never been able to sit on my laurels and rely on my “special talent”. It means I am creative and work hard to get things done and be the best I can be.
- I am grateful when my whole body aches and it hurts to move. I am grateful for this because it is normally after I have had an intense gym session and worked some muscles I haven’t worked in a while or worked extra fucking hard. And I am grateful for my body for being strong enough to do that.
- I am grateful I don’t have my own car (I actually co-own one with my boyfriend) but sometimes I hate not having my own car as I feel like I don’t have my independence. But when I think about it, I am grateful. I am grateful I don’t need to spend so much money on travel. I am grateful that it encourages me to walk much more, I’ll walk to shops I might drive to, I walk further even when a car isn’t available just because I am used to it.
- I am grateful I don’t live near my best friend. It means when we do see each other, I genuinely enjoy it more and don’t take it for granted.
- I am grateful when at the end of the day, I am so tired I can’t keep my eyes open. I know it’s because I have had a full day and made the most of it.
- I am grateful for my parents’ divorce (10 years ago). I got much closer to my dad after it as I valued my time with him (I have always been close to my mum). Even now he has moved over 2 hours away, I don’t get to see him often but when I do, I value it more. It also meant they were much happier in the long run.
- I am grateful I was bullied at school. Something I wouldn’t wish upon anyone, but it made me into who I am today. It means I speak my mind, it means I won’t let anyone walk over me so I am grateful for how it shaped me.
This wasn’t easy. Can you solve 10 hard gratitude problems?